Connection Not Attention - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

Is love enough?

Love the feeling or love the action?

Is it the feeling we chase, or the action we choose?

Love as a feeling is beautiful—but fleeting. Love as an action is steady. It is the daily decision to find balance, to learn your partner deeply, and to love them in the way they feel loved. It is the willingness to show up with warmth even on the days when patience is thin and tenderness feels far away.

It isn’t grand declarations about dying for someone or promises of doing “anything.” It’s quieter, simpler, and far more meaningful. It’s putting the phone down. It’s turning toward them when they walk through the door and really asking, "How was your day?" It’s choosing presence over distraction.

It’s holding their hand as you walk together, noticing the shift in their mood, and caring enough to ask what’s beneath it. It’s taking an interest in their passions and the things that light them up. It’s remembering the small details they share—not because you have to, but because you truly care.

That is love in action. And it is the action, not just the feeling, that sustains connection. Feelings rise and fall, but what we choose to give, to notice, to nurture—that is what makes love last.

It's about the connection, not the attention.

Connection Not Attention - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

Connection Not Attention - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.