Emotional Intelligence Ephesians 4:15 - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

Creating a connection with someone who is emotionally intelligent is like standing in front of a mirror that does not lie.

They do not flinch at your shadows, but they will not let you hide in them either. They notice the patterns you barely recognise in yourself, the walls you’ve built to keep out the world, the excuses you whisper to justify what you’ve done or not done.

They see when you are being avoidant, when you push love away out of fear, when you project old pain onto someone who only wants to hold you, and instead of retreating, they meet you with courage, patience, and honesty.

They will tell you the truth—not to wound you, but to wake you up, to help you see yourself clearly, so that you may finally begin to heal.

Being with them is not easy. It is not a refuge from your own heart, but a confrontation with it. Real love with someone like this is not pretending that everything is okay. It is not the comfort of illusions, but the fire that burns away what no longer serves you, the light that illuminates your blind spots, and the embrace that holds you steady while you learn to stand in your own truth.

They will call you to accountability, not out of judgment, but because love that is true demands growth. They will not let you settle for less than you are capable of, nor for relationships that diminish your spirit.

They will celebrate your progress, but they will not coddle your avoidance.

They will see the courage it takes to face yourself, and they will walk beside you as you do.

Being with someone emotionally intelligent is a sacred test of your willingness to grow, to be honest with yourself, to surrender your pride and your defences, to allow love to be a mirror that reflects not only beauty, but also the places where healing is required.

And when you are ready—truly ready—you will realise that this love is a gift.

A love that challenges, that sees, that holds, that nurtures your soul while demanding your best self is rare, powerful, and transformative. It is a love that asks nothing less than your presence, your honesty, and your courage, and in return gives you the freedom to become the person you were always meant to be.

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

Ephesians 4:15

Lord,

I pray for the courage to receive love that challenges me, love that sees me fully and calls me to my highest self. Help me to recognise the mirrors placed in my life—the people who reflect my truth, the moments that demand growth, and the love that refuses to settle for less than what is real.

Grant me the humility to hear the truths I fear, the strength to face my patterns, and the wisdom to embrace accountability as a pathway to freedom. Guide my heart to those who nurture, who love deeply yet honestly, and who walk beside me in patience and faith.

May I honour the love that sees me, that awakens me, and that teaches me to stand fully in my truth, and may my life and my relationships reflect the growth, courage, and integrity that you desire for me.

Amen.

Emotional Intelligence Ephesians 4:15 - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

Emotional Intelligence Ephesians 4:15 - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.