Peace Within Boundaries - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

And if you do anything today, please teach yourself that boundaries are healthy, important and necessary for your own peace.

I've found myself in a situation that is slowly stealing pieces of my heart because my understanding of "healthy boundaries" was never part of my growth as a child or as a woman.

And it's only been through my own choice to heal that I have researched, listened, and gained wisdom from those who have that information, that I can only just now sit and process this.

Believe me when I tell you it's been a tough few weeks now, but I'm coming through it like God promised I would. It has slowly cost me my confidence, my strength, and my power, and that's why I need you to know how important "healthy boundaries" are, so it doesn't cost you too.

So, as you can imagine, I'm having to be a little bit more patient with myself while moving through the emotions of having to tell someone I'm uncomfortable with their actions and how their presence makes me feel, not to mention how their sharing of anything from the past may affect my future.

The conversations with myself are definitely the most difficult part by far because when you spend most of your life being a "people pleaser", you literally have to rewire the part of your brain that is associated with that need, but also educate it too.

There is nothing wrong with doing beautiful, kind, and selfless things for people, but there must be a line. One that is drawn so that you can remain true to your values and the level of respect you have for yourself.

We should always consider being kind in our approach in all things, but the most important thing to consider is how it is making you feel, along with the long-term impact it's having on you as a person outside of that situation.

For me, it's the worry that I'm going to hurt them or their feelings, even though my heart was hurt long before today by them. It wants to be the kind one to everyone else, but not so much to yourself.

And I know you feel it too. The fear of hurting someone else outweighs the need to tell people how you really feel, and it's because you care so very deeply.

You're such an extraordinary soul, irreplaceable, but if we continue to value others' pain and suffering, what happens to ours? What about our hearts, our minds, our love?

The most important thing I can ever share is that no one in the world is more important than YOU ARE!

You matter, and so does how you feel about everything.

You're valuable, and your feelings are justifiable. No one will ever be as important as you are to yourself, so be gentle with yourself.

I go to God with everything, and that's my blessing! He fights my battles, but He also places me in situations I ask for so that I can be a better woman in Him and for Him.

We still must do the work on ourselves with God by our sides. He provides circumstances for us to grow, and the biggest growth comes from the most painful ones.

God doesn't want us to suffer, but He does want us to see the version of ourselves that He sees us as!

Please say no when things don't feel right, tell that person you're not comfortable, and please, even for me, tell yourself, "I deserve better!"

Peace Within Boundaries - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.

Peace Within Boundaries - Personal blog of Trisha Rapley, Australian Author.