I've never been a selfish person; always putting other people's feelings first even at the cost of my own heart.
Naïve? Possibly...
Stupid? Maybe...
Irresponsible? Most likely...
Self-destructive? So they say...
Worth it anyway? Without a doubt...
"I wouldn't trade a single moment of my life for anything better! "I would rather bare the burdens of pain, suffering, and heartbreak than do any harm to anyone else."
"Selflessness" speaks volumes, doesn't it? She is so selfless giving so much without asking for anything in return..." A brave act that the heart gives without reason or cause simply because it makes no sense to do any less.
I think there is a rare form of love that comes from understanding, compassion, and patience. A "selfless" love. A love that gives an understanding that great things time. I don't mean that love takes time because let's face it. We can fall in love in a second. I mean the way a great relationship or friendship is built.
The kind of love that gives you knowledge about people you love and compassion to understand they like us aren't perfect. When you can put your own needs aside to allow their love to grow mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and at their our rate, speed, and time... When you allow your love to grow on them, in them, and a part of them this is a "Selfless Love".
It's all about space... Giving them the space they need to grow, heal and "fly" I like to call it. When you love someone you only ever want the best for them and if that means stepping aside, letting go of your pride, taking a knee, or putting your own feelings aside that is exactly what you do.....
It sometimes comes in the form of...
Helping them build their dreams...
Allowing them to express how something you said or did make them feel...
Caring that their feelings have been hurt even though you never intended for that to happen...
Allowing them time to heal the parts of themselves that question your love for them...
Accepting and owning up to your own accountabilities in all situations...
Allowing them to be happy even if it isn't with you...
Giving them your attention, time, and energy...
"You must love people in such a way that they feel free! Free to live their life the way they see it best for them, not the way you wish it was for them!"
A little advice I would love to give is whether you're experiencing a new bond or entering into a relationship you must leave your selfishness, pride, and, ego at the door!! There'll never be a time in any relationship or situation in your life there will ever be room for it. And if there is, you are simply not in a relationship for love or with love.
"Both our feelings matter and both of us should be able to say what needs to be said without feeling scared or worried about what might happen as a result. It is so selfish to only think about yourself and to only care about how you are feeling and not me too!"
"You both have the right to express every single feeling but you must accept and listen to each other too! When you love each other that is what it means! UNCONDITIONALLY... Not selfishly... You must give what you ask for...
If you want to be heard, then let her speak.
If you want to be forgiven, then forgive her.
If you want to be understood, then understand her.
If you want to be loved, then love her.
If you want to be selfless, then allow her to be selfless...
A relationship is successful when it is balanced with both people equally agreeing. Each person outlining what they need and want from this understanding is key. What their limits are and the boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.
It really is an invisible contract of "Selfless Love". When you put their needs at the same levels as your own not because you love them but because they are you and you are them and anything they feel you feel too. You pull everything together into one. Two souls with one heart always working to make sure they are on the same level of love, respect, trust, honesty, and understanding.
It is crucial in the very beginning all pride, ego, and selfishness are nonexistent to allow both hearts to speak openly, honestly, and wholeheartedly about what can make and break their ideas, dreams, and hopes for a lasting relationship.
When being open with one another you have a complete list of needs and before it goes any further you can make a decision whether it is right for you. Then there is no doubt, no need, or no uncertainty whatsoever. You simply either accept or decline... Move forward together or apart and you do the work!
I would call that an "All in" Moment...
"Your needs and wants were never too much that I couldn't give or wouldn't meet... I will always meet you there; in the place of honesty and selflessness. The place where we are simply two people deciding to love each other without a single ounce of doubt in our hearts. To give it our best every day and work at being better people for each other and for ourselves because that's what love is! Two people who never give up on each other no matter what!"
So, before opening your heart and deciding it is time leave your pride (ego) at the door to hope! There is just no room for it ever in a relationship that is love... You simply give and take... You agree and disagree... You accept and you decline... You understand while being understood and you love while being loved...
Love is really that simple... Treat each other the exact same way as you want to be treated and nothing will go wrong. Understand that words have great power they can build someone up and tear them down. They can give hope and shatter dreams. They can help someone love and stop someone from ever loving again...
Don't ever allow yourself to be a person with a fake heart who says and writes words that fill a heart with lies of false hope and made-up dreams you knew you would never be willing to give... Because this is an act of the devil, not God.... and God's love is selfless and so should yours be... ALWAYS.....
Selfless Love...
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